To all my Ex's

Dear Ex's,
and you know who you are. Thank you.

Yes that is what I said, Thank you.

Thank you for the fights, the heart break, the good times and especially the bad. Thank you for judging me and controlling me. Thank you for the lies and the belittling. Thank you for all the pedestals I fell from as well. You have given me a precious gift.

You gave the the gift of being ready for the one.
My soul mate.
Thank You for my husband.
My husband who is an absolutely wonderful man for me. That is the key now isn't it, "for me". I am not saying that you aren't wonderful, oh dear ex boyfriends. I am sure you are, for someone, one day.

I can't honestly say I would have picked him out of a line up as the man I would marry and be happily ever after with, and I know I would have never given him any type of chance before I met any of you. And that would have been a shame.

He is very quirky, even tempered, off the wall, understanding, supportive, patient. There are still moments, or even days I have no idea what he is talking about. But I learned that it doesn't matter as long as I listened. We don't have a highly passionate love, no roller coaster rides here, but I learned that there is true love in being contented.

He has been there as I grew out of the shell or shroud as some people have called it, that I had grew into as a defense mechanism from my previous relationships, ie. you guys. Thank you for those failed relationships because all the pain and suffering taught me what love really is and what is really worth cherishing. Those previous heart breaks made me into the person I am, a person who knows just how wonderful my husband is, and doesn't always over look the small things he does that nourishes our love as well as me.

Thank you for the man who helped me find and even love me.

He puts up with quirks I never knew I had, he allows me to make mistakes with out judgement or even really criticism, he offers more congratulations you over came that well and look what you learned or sometimes he just offers a "Of course" because he knew all along how it would turn out, but he also knew I wouldn't have listened, that I have to learn on my own.

He allows my flaws, again without judging or criticism, Even allows me acknowledgment of and refusal tot change some of them.

Thank you for the man who loves me for me, not what he wants me to be.

He is more full of love than any person I have ever known. He has the hugest heart. Which I some times call over sensitive but I do truly admire.

Now I still moan and groan as any wife does, and he does have his faults. Faults that maybe you guys didn't have, but they are more than a fair price to pay for all the rest.

So again I say thank you. Thank you for the road I followed to my other half. Thank you for all the bits of me you added or changed, to make me the woman I was when I was found by him.

Sincerely yours, Iva Rose